“News” broke yesterday that Tim Tebow’s arm candy, former Miss USA Olivia Culpo, has dumped the former Heisman winner because she couldn’t handle his stance on abstinence.
Tebow, as a result, has caught plenty of flack.
Which is interesting on a couple of different levels.
First, why isn’t Culpo the one who is catching the snarky scorn of the countless online commentators? She’s the one who apparently told her friends things about she and Tebow’s personal relationship that should’ve been no one’s business but their own, and it was at least one of those friends who squealed to the New York Daily News and allowed this “news” to break.
Second, why the double standard?
And there are two double standards at play here.
The first one is the double standard of the sexes. We hear all the time about the double standard of women being considered “whores” or “sluts” if they’re promiscuous, whereas promiscuity in men is considered a badge of honor of sorts. And that’s true. But there’s also this Tebow situation.
Take Complex magazine, for example. Complex asks whether Tebow is “making a huge mistake” because he allegedly drove away his girlfriend by refusing to have sex with her.
Wait, are you serious? If a young woman broke up with her boyfriend because he was pressuring her to sleep with him, does anyone think she would be criticized on social media? No…if anyone criticized her, they would be tarred and feathered, figuratively speaking.
As Facebook user Amber McCarville posts:
I’m absolutely disgusted at the double standard that I’m seeing all over Facebook. If a man broke up with a woman over her NOT WANTING to have sex with him he would be trashed all over the place for being a douche bag. His name would be dragged all over the place and Lord knows ALL the man haters would be blowing up Twitter calling for his head on a platter. A woman does it and the Internet finds it hilarious and joins in on mocking him… Maybe instead of wasting time debating on whether Tebow is really a Jesus freak or secretly gay we could take a few minutes to figure out why this woman feels that she’s entitled to have sex with every man she wants. No means no and that goes for when a man says it as well.
The second double standard is the reaction to what Tebow chooses to do with his personal life. His personal belief is abstinence, and he gets scorned for it. Can you imagine that same reaction towards someone who “came out of the closet” to announce their homosexuality? Oh, there would be some folks who would scorn them, obviously…but it wouldn’t be nearly as mainstream as it is with Tebow, where you have media outlets linking the story on their Facebook pages with such captions as “poor Tim Tebow” or similar such foolishness. Those same news organizations would be raked over the coals if they said similar things about someone who was coming out.
The reason Tebow is the target of the double standard, obviously, is because his stance is based on his Christian faith, something that is no longer acceptable to a growing number of Americans.
Consider some dude named Vlad Feldman, who posts on Facebook that Culpo “dumped” Tebow’s “sorry ass,” and adds, “This is both sad and pathetic and a prime example of how one’s faith interferes with one’s daily life in a major fashion.”
The lesson here for Christians is simply this, and it’s a good lesson particularly for teen Christians who find themselves dealing with the exact same issues as Tebow: If you proclaim to be a Christian to the folks around you, you will face ridicule, you will face scorn and you will face peer pressure to conform your beliefs to what the rest of the world feels is okay.
Sadly, though, it isn’t jus non-Christians who are ridiculing Tebow. Consider this comment from a reader calling himself HairyDawg77, posted to the original story linked above:
Not trying to be an ass, but I don’t think he doesn’t have sex because of religion, I think he’s really gay. I mean knowing about how religious he is and how the whole Christian community supports him, he’s probably to afraid of what could happen if he came out. I’m Christian and could care less if he is but you have to be realistic, he comes out and that’s a big deal. It’s easier for him to fake feelings for a girl and hide behind no sex before marriage, but it’s completely different for him to come out.
This guy claims to be a Christian, yet he’s ridiculing a fellow Christian because the other guy is practicing what the Bible teaches.
You see, not even many Christians want to truly take a stand for biblical truths. The same Bible that teaches us the tenets of Christianity — that Jesus Christ is the son of God, was born of man, died and rose again to provide a means of salvation for a fallen human race — also teaches us that God commands his people to do exactly what Tebow professes to do: save themselves for marriage. That same Bible very clearly teaches that premarital sex is fornication, which is a sin. Of course, you won’t hear many churches broach the subject of nonmarital sex because it is a subject that makes too many of their parishioners uncomfortable. And, in our effort to cherry-pick from what we like and don’t like in the Bible, you get folks like HairyDawg77 who scorn fellow Christians who are doing nothing except what God commanded of them.
And that deepens the lesson: If you stand for God’s word, you have to be strong, because you will face ridicule and scorn from all angles — from what we often call “the world” and from other proclaimed “Christians” alike.
That’s what makes Tim Tebow an outstanding role model for young Christians.